What is the protocol when it comes to paying for the big day
Welcome to 2015, where the rules about who pays for what when you’re walking down the aisle aren’t as cut and dry as they once were. Weddings have upped their game since your parent’s generation, where a standard church service and pub do would suffice. Today we’re getting married older, and we’re doing it fancier. The bride’s family are no longer expected to bare the whole financial burden, nowadays if you want the wedding of your dreams it’s a group effort. We’ve broken down the traditional costs to help you figure out how to split the bill for your wedding.
Bridal Gown – It’s still common for the family of the bride to spring for her gown, but differences in taste can make this tricky. If you have specific views on how you want your dress to look it’s usually easier to spring for the dress yourself.
Bridesmaid’s Dresses – Some bride’s ask for contributions from their bridesmaid’s when it comes to their dresses, accessories, hair, and makeup, as paying for multiple gowns can be costly. If the bridesmaids are paying it’s important to give them a say in choosing their dress.
Groom/Groomsmen – It’s traditional for the groom to purchase his own suit for the big day, but groomsmen’s suits are usually rented.
Rental Fees – one of the biggest cost will be the venue, which though traditionally was paid for by the bride’s family is now usually a cost shared between the bride and groom.
Decorations – Flowers, table settings, balloons, confetti, are typically split between the bride and groom with contributions from the family where necessary.
Reception – The food and drinks for the wedding day itself is typically paid for by the happy couple or the bride’s family, while the food, drink, and venue for the rehearsal dinner is taken care of by the groom’s family.
Photography – If the bride and groom choose to pay for the wedding themselves the families can feel left out of the proceedings, or like they’re not doing their part. If this is the case a nice way to thank and congratulate the happy couple is to pay for a single element, like the photographer.
Whoever is paying for the wedding it’s important to keep it within your means, starting out married life under a pile of debt is hardly a romantic gift. Discuss your options and expectations with your families to ensure everyone is comfortable with who is paying for what, and everyone is clear on the budget.
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