Blending faiths, traditions and cultures in an interfaith wedding ceremony are challenging, but can have truly special results…
As interfaith weddings become more common, the differences in culture and tradition can create certain challenges as both parties seek to include both religious traditions during the ceremony. Though challenges are expected, it is possible to make your interfaith wedding a beautifully unique one you’ll both love.
1) The Venue
The first thing most will do when planning a wedding is pick the venue, and for an interfaith wedding this is what's most important. Not only will you need to find a venue that can accommodate your wedding but also an officiant (or two!) willing to perform your wedding ceremony.
It may be necessary to consider that some religious places of worship may not be okay with this and that you may be faced with the possibility of compromising and having two ceremonies or a wedding elsewhere. There are many interfaith ministers that perform wedding ceremonies anywhere they’re asked to go; including beaches and gardens. They perform specifically tailored ceremonies for couples; this means couples have a blank canvas to work on and include whatever they wish to.
2) Including Both Faiths In the Wedding
Many couples include wedding programs to explain to their guests the structure of their wedding and what various traditions mean and how they will be performed; this is a great way to include your family and friends throughout the wedding ceremony.
Whether you choose to follow tradition closely or not, it’s important that you work with your officiant to plan an interfaith wedding ceremony that is suited to you. This may mean adding personal touches such as vows or ceremony order. The best person to speak with about things such as this would be your wedding officiant and then both families for what they would most like to see included in your wedding without of course offending either party.
The easiest way to consider inclusion in an interfaith wedding ceremony is to:
- Acknowledge both couple’s faiths at various points throughout the ceremony
- Choose common readings that do not offend (again, consult with your officiant)
- Include rituals that are common in both faiths such as blessings or lighting a Unity candle.
It may also help to go for counselling from each of your faiths in order to gain a more in-depth understanding of what you both believe as well as getting involved as much as possible with each other’s family so you both know what to expect.
Though there is a possibility your families may be a little upset, it’s important to realise that all they need is time. Honesty, inclusion and affection to both parties throughout the process will heal any wounds a little faster.
Keep your family in your life as much as possible and don’t expect the worst from them; keep in touch and expect that they may not always agree with everything you do but ultimately it’s about you and your spouse from here on out.
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