How to make sure you avoid common newlywed pitfalls
Unfortunately the honeymoon phase can’t last forever. Once couples settle into married life the road can quickly start to feel bumpy but don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal and something we all have to adjust too. If you’re starting out on your journey through life as a married couple there are ways to make the transition from newlyweds into life partners a little bit smoother. Here is our list of top 5 newlywed pitfalls that can be easily avoided with a little anticipation.
1. Face Issues as they Arise
During the honeymoon phase we tend to let things go but as married life goes on you might find they aren’t so little, and the more you let them niggle away without saying anything the bigger they become which can lead to an all-out blowout that you definitely want to avoid. Instead of letting issues fester the best approach is to be honest, constructive, and fair when you feel your needs are not being met.
2. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
There are some fights that just aren’t worth having and it’s important to remember your partner isn’t perfect, and there’s no point trying to mould them into something they’re not. Getting on each other’s nerves is inevitable when you spend so much of your time with another person, the best way to decide if it’s worth the fight is to put it into the context of your entire relationship – if it isn’t worth causing hurt and damage then it’s probably best to simply learn to accept it and move on.
3. Be Constructive
No one likes feeling attacked and if you go in with all your guns blazing that’s exactly how your partner will feel. Stick to the issue when you’re raising concerns so you don’t veer off into pettiness which will hurt your partner – don’t name call, don’t insult, and keep your partners feelings in consideration. It’s likely they had no idea it was an issue and never meant any offence.
Equally if your partner is raising an issue make sure not to fly off the handle at the first hint of insult, ask for clarification and reply in a calm and understanding manner to really get to the bottom of the problem with everyone’s feelings intact.
4. Take Responsibility for your Own Family
Merging two families isn’t always smooth, in fact it often isn’t and there may be things your family do which offend your spouse and vice versa. If you have an issue with your partner’s family members let them know gently and let them raise the issue with their loved one. If your family are insulting your partner be sure to deal with it quickly so resentment doesn’t grow.
5. Don’t Take Your Partner for Granted
Compliment your partner. Tell them you love them. Remind them how much they mean to you. Communication works both ways and it’s as important, if not more important, to let your partner know how you feel when it’s positive as it is when it’s negative. Keep doing the little things that make your partner happy, show physical affection, and remember why it is you married them in the first place.