All the extra caution you need before making the most important decision of your life.
Sometimes people are just so excited about the idea of getting married, that they forget what it’s really about. When this happens, consequences can be unexpected and dangerous. Before getting married you should make sure that you are not taking this huge and life-changing step for the wrong reasons. The mistakes people make before they get married may really hurt their chances for a happy marriage.
In particular, this might happen whenever you don’t know yourself enough. Before committing to a long-term relationship, you should make sure you know yourself better than anyone else. Marriage is a way of living, not a destination. It’s not a form of couples thearapy, either. If you happen to have issues in your relationship before you decide to get married, those issues will not be magically fixed by the time you walk down the aisle, unless you put some effort in solving them.
Before making such a life-changing decision, you should discuss your goals with your partner. Do you both want kids? Do you want the same things out of this relationship? It’s important to focus on all the apparently meaningless aspects of your relationship, if you don’t want it to turn into a self-constructed prison, from where, once you’re in, you can hardly ever get out.
Also, make sure you are getting married to someone because you know you want it and not just because society tells you that it’s the right time for you to do so.
It’s true. Maybe you’re almost 30 and all your female friends are getting married or having babies, and you feel like you’re missing something, but it’s not true. Trust your guts and don’t get stuck into a self-imposed pressure of having to get married before you’re too “old”. There is not right age for marriage. Love happens when it’s ready to happen and there is very little you can do to control that wonderful feeling.
It is okay to be excited about the idea of a wedding, but remember that the word “wedding”does not equal the word “marriage”. Getting married is not just about that one very special day when you’ll be walking down the aisle in front of God and anyone who loves you. Getting married is something else. It defines itself with time, patience and mutual respect.