Why it is more reasonable to opt for counseling instead of divorce.
Marriage is not easy – we’ve said that multiple times. Marriage rates are on the decline. About 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and this number has remained unchanged for the past 30 years. Divorce is never an easy choice. It can often be one of life’s most stressful life events. While it may be necessary for some, others may wish to try to save whatever is left of their union. It’s not rare for couples to encounter issues but whenever this happens, some of them decide to seek marriage counseling.
Here are a few reasons why marriage counseling is a good idea.
First of all, communication helps. To be fair, many relationship challenges are simply communication challenges. A therapist can help find new ways to make communication within the couple easier. Bad communication includes negative communication. When all that’s coming out of your mouth are insults, judgments, emotional abuses and threats, it is hard to get communication going back in the right decision.
Sometimes in relationships a point can be reached when people might be afraid to talk and you might see your partner as an antagonist. A counsellor can help you understand that you and your partner are not adversaries. You are on the same team, instead.
Also, fantasizing about having an affair is not a good signal for your relationship’s health. Keeping secrets from each other is also not good. However, if both of you are committed to the therapy process and promise to be honest, the marriage can still be salvaged.
Whether you feel like you have been arguing over the same little things or if you feel like your sex life has shifted dramatically, those are all signs that there are ongoing relationship issues that could be solved by marriage counseling. Keep in mind that every relationship has sticking points. Every couple argues over things. However, these challenges are not impossible to overcome. Most couples wait a long time before they decide to seek help, but remember that the sooner you seek help, the higher your chances are to get it.
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