How to preserve that post-marital glow
As we all know from experience, all good things must pass. Before you know it, that much-awaited day will be over (sob) and your honeymoon will have flown by in a blur of sun, sea, sex and sand. Sadly, once the novelty of married life has worn off, many couples struggle to keep their marriage feeling as fresh and as new as when they first boarded that plane to destination paradise. The trials and tests of everyday life can be straining on a marriage, and once that blissful honeymoon period is well and truly over, it’s important to make sure that your post-married glow doesn’t dull in years to come. Luckily for you, we come with some wise words of wisdom to help you keep your marriage fresh and full of excitement:
If you and your partner both lead hectic lives, it can be hard to find the time to show one another how much you are both loved and appreciated. Show your partner that you’re thinking about them at every given opportunity, and you’ll stay as close as you were when you first walked down the aisle. Surprise him with a romantic note alongside a glass of his favourite juice before you leave the house in the morning, letting him know that he’s on your mind even at the busiest of times.
I’m a strong believer that sweet gestures are the key to a long-lasting marriage. Has your partner had a tough week? Have her favourite meal waiting for her when she arrives home from work - alongside a kiss and a cuddle of course. The smallest of gestures can go a long way, from making her a simple morning coffee to presenting her with a bouquet of flowers after a dreaded meeting.
Whether you’ve been married for two years or twenty-two years, sex will always be an important part of keeping your marriage fresh and exciting. However, after a long and exhausting day, we all know how difficult it is to summon up the energy for anything intimate. The key here is to enjoy good sex over frequent sex - if you can secure both, you’re one of the lucky ones. Set aside an evening once a fortnight where you can completely devote yourself to one another with no distractions. Throw some handcuffs and a blindfold into the mix and make your evenings as raunchy as you want for a sex life that would make Christian Grey proud. Look here for some inspiration.
Ensuring that you make time for one another throughout your marriage is integral to maintaining a close bond with your partner. Set aside one night a week where you put on your glad-rags and go somewhere fancy and relive the excitement of the dating game. Forbid conversations about the heating bill and instead reminisce about old times, sharing secrets and stories. Keeping your relationship outside the realms of your living room is a sure-fire way of rekindling that newly-wed spark.
Everyone needs to take regular breaks from the rat race of life - especially couples. Even if it’s just for a long weekend, romantic mini-breaks are a great opportunity to spend more time together and to remember what you like doing best as a couple. Do something or go somewhere you’ve both never been before. The experience will bring you closer together - and after all, no matter how busy life gets, there’s always room for some adventure. For luxurious opportunities to escape that are too good to miss, click here.
As important as it is to spend time together, it’s also necessary to spend time apart. Leading your own separate lives is a reminder that however attached you may be, you are still your own person with your own friends and interests. Spending too much time in close proximity with one another can be smothering, and is often the recipe for unneeded bickering. We all know that distance makes the heart grow fonder, so take regular breaks from each other’s company and you’ll be itching to get back into each other's arms.