Are well meaning relatives bombarding you with engagement questions? Here’s how to handle them.
You’re engaged! You’ve got the ring on your finger so now prepare for the floodgates to open so well intentioned friends and family members can burst forth and ask you a million questions on anything and everything to do with your wedding. As nice as their excitement is, it can all get a bit frustrating. Here are some tips to help you handle some of the most clawing wedding questions.
1. When’s The Wedding
It’s an understandable question, sure, but do people think setting a date is easy? Finding a date that not only works for you and your partner but also your nearest and dearest is hard enough, but you also have to factor in the time it will take you to plan everything else! Wedding planning is daunting, if you need to take some extra time to adjust before solidifying the occasion with a date then take it. Tell your nearest and dearest you’re considering a few options.
2. How are You Paying for the Wedding
Asking someone about money in any situation is always rude, but for some reason the rules of social interaction go out of the door when it comes to weddings. The best way to respond is with a ‘why do you ask?’ which will politely let the questioner know it’s none of their business.
3. Are You Inviting (Insert Name Here)
Before you have your venue figured out it’s hard to know how many people are going to be on the guest list, so even though you might want to invite great uncle Oscar who you haven’t seen since you were 5, it might not be feasible. Tell enquiring ears that you aren’t sure how big your wedding’s going to be, so they know if people don’t make the final cut it’s not personal.
4. When Are You Starting A Family?
This question is best saved until after the wedding, or ideally never at all. This question is, unfortunately, unavoidable and will follow you until a baby is born. The best way to respond is to turn the question around and ask your friend or family member about their own reproductive ambitions instead.
5. Are You Sure?
It’s usually meant as a joke but that doesn’t mean it’s not tiring. Don’t feel the need to defend your relationship, just play along with the joke and laugh it off – life’s too short!